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After that, it's fair game. Cate, 24 "The man should always pay for the first date. Karyn, 29 "My relationships, historically speaking, are shorter than longer — so the guy pays, always. Tanya, 34 "If I ask, they better be okay with me paying.

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Brendan, 33 "In the beginning, I still think a guy should pay. However, I'm always prepared to at least cover myself, because your never know. Although actual scientific stats on the subject are hard to come by, a survey by the dating app Coffee Meets Bagel found that 66 percent of women offer to pay on the first datebut still hope their date will pick up the tab. Cinthia, 30 "I don't mind either way. Autumn, 26 "I'm a little old school: I like adte guy to pay. Especially when I knew guys were expected to pay in most cases, and we were both probably going on a lot of first dates.

The truth is that no relationship is split evenly down the middle. I dahe this now since I'm working again, but when I was unemployed and had little money for Gooing out, those rules went out the window. Dudes feel entitled to free stuff all the time, the least they can do is feed you for the trouble you take to tolerate Gking company. And that's paying entirely.

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By Amanda Chatel March 2, It's a question many straight women and men struggle datf alike: who should pay on a first date? I fiercely defended my financial territory because I believed it defined who I was as a woman. I won't be jumping up to pay the bill. So let's kill the traditional chivalry! Jennifer, 27 "I still want the guy to pay.

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I know I often find ducth wondering if wanting a man to pay on the first date somehow diminishes my feminism. Sofia, 29 "When we are fighting for equal rights in almost everything, why let this alone stubbornly hang on? If we never needed anyone for anything, well, what would we need relationships for? But, now that I'm married, it's usually like I buy the movie firsg — and he buys the popcorn.

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Henry, 36 "I think that a guy should pay, at least on the first date. Unfortunately, men seemed to take that as a lack of interest, when really I was trying to be considerate. Every moment you spend picking over an itemized dinner bill in each of these scenarios, to me, cancels out a moment of joy. He usually picks up meals and drinks.

It's about treating people the same, no frist what their gender is.

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Weirdly enough, almost every time the guy offered to pay for everything, I never heard back from him about a second date. Bustle asked our male and female readers to share about their thoughts on paying on the first date. Natalie, 27 "When I was dating, I always offered to go dutch. That said, if she wants to split it, I'm not going to quibble. But for early stage dating, I generally prefer to split the check. And when someone else picks it up, that feels good, too, because it means that person appreciates you.

Elizabeth, 31 "I prefer to split, at least in the beginning. Because paying for someone else's dinner should be about kindness, not [gender] role obligations.

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Leigh, 28 "I hate to say it, but if a guy pays on the first date he scores major points with me. Especially o he's the one planning it or asking me out.

Going dutch on first date

Later on, if they prove themselves to be decent human beings, I have zero issue splitting costs or paying for dates, but they should always pay the first time. If he offers to treat, then I usually offer to treat next one. Women on average earn less than men. Becky, 29 "I don't feel bad about letting someone else pay in certain circumstances, like if they are making dramatically more money than I am. He wants to be in my realm; he can pay for dinner. If my parents' friends are in town and want to take me to dinner, or if I'm having dinner with my boss, or if the chef decides to comp something, that's totally great.

Like everything in nature, it oscillates, ebbs, flows. But — he gets points for picking up the tab.

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In my mind, this balances out an even deeper inequality than money: when I go somewhere to meet a new woman, I may be putting my time, my dignity, and even my heart on the line — but not my life. If I ask dste dude out, I feel like I should be responsible for paying for the whole thing.

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And, if down the road you have and need to take some time off work as many women do he might need to be the income provider in the family. In a world where women are striving for cutch — but still average only 77 cents to every dollar a man earns — what exactly constitutes fair here?

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I will cook many meals in return. Sean, 34 "My sense of etiquette is about years old, so I'm not a good example, but I don't mind paying. If we hit it off and are dating for awhile then I'm much more up for splitting or switching off who's paying.

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Jen, 35 "First date and he asked? Paying or splitting a bill only shows that a woman is just as capable as a man. Having the guy take me out feels uncomfortably old-fashioned to me.

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Mieko, 36 "I prefer to split. I may be a feminist who can well afford her own meals, but I also like the idea of chivalry and being taken care of. It plays out in the client-vendor relationship, the get-to-know-your-in-laws relationship, the old-friends-from-school relationship and so on. I mean, I also think the notion that the world treats the genders the same is false.